by trent on April 19, 2012
Have you ever thought about the differences between confidence and being comfortable?
In helping “Teens catch their Dreams”, I have seen so many high school students beam when I encourage them to get back to dreaming about what they would love to do. They get all excited about possibilities before them.
They start believing that they can do anything. They even write out goals and an action plan to start pursuing their dream. This is always an exciting part of the 5Fprep program. They leave the program with enthusiasm, but I believe only 3% will actually go for it. Why?
Because they lack confidence AND they would rather be comfortable, they will not try to attain their true desires. Here is what I mean.
“What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” This quote is so true. Many students don’t try because they don’t want to fail. They are not confident of their possibility to succeed, so they don’t try. They somehow believe they will die if they don’t succeed. Actually, they will learn instead of be buried!
The sadness of this is that they will never grow in confidence because they will always feel incompetant. The only way to learn to walk is to be willing to fall down. EVERY story I have ever read about a person who achieved their dreams shows many mistakes on their way to success! With blunders, you learn and become better and therefore can build confidence and think more and more, “I can really do this.”
OR
They can decide to be comfortable. Have we ever wanted to watch a movie where someone sits and watches TV or surfs the internet hour after hour at home with no real purpose? No! So why do they choose to do this with their spare time?. . .It is comfortable. Boring. Uneventful, but comfortable!
So, which would you rather have? Comfort or Confidence?
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by trent on April 9, 2012
I spoke with a college student today who is pursuing a degree in sports medicine. Though he is interested in that career avenue, the classes are starting to push him into more confusion. He is about to step into “I don’t know what I want to be” and he seems to have a quiet anxiousness about it.
I told him to cheer up. A very successful career coach, Dan Miller, says that you will have a lot of experiences until your 5o years old. That is around the time you will really be doing what you were meant to do. . .if you have been searching for it up to that point.
I told this wavering student to stay on track with the sports medicine degree for multiple reasons:
1) Don’t just stand there, do something.
Too many students opt into the idea of being stagnant when they are not positive about what they want to do. I believe they need to take it one day at a time, but remain open to new opportunities. If a student just sits on his or her hands until he “figures it out”, it will never come to knock on his door. Result= still confused at 50.
2) School is just boring.
I am sorry, but I feel like this needs to be said. I seldom hear a successful person say that their school experience was so awesome and inspiring. Most times, young adults put too much stock in how much they are enjoying the classes as to whether they would enjoy the profession. Get an internship or interview someone who has that job that you admire. Keep the dream alive. . .or let it die, but in an active way.
3) Be curious!
This is so important. Matter of fact, Steve Jobs, who was the innovation behind Apple, Inc. told students at a Standford address to stay curious and stay foolish. What I take that to mean is to stay at a place where things catch your attention. Don’t just resolve to get a job and make that job a career. Stay curious. Keep looking around at the world and look for jobs in it. You would be amazed at what you might find if you are simply alert!
I believe the curious ones will be the ones who end up doing work that they love!
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